Dr. Nicole DiLella


About Me

My name is Dr. Nicole DiLella and I’ve been providing counseling services in a variety of settings for nearly ten years. Most of my practice has focused on clients recovering from trauma and personality disorders. I've also spent a great deal of time assiting client's in navigating through religious crisis/spiritual struggles, sexuality, perfectionism/self-criticism, narcissistic family dynamics, career issues, and developing a sense of self-compassion. I am a nationally certified counselor and licensed as a professional counselor in the states of Virginia and Maryland. I feel fortunate to have completed my doctoral degree training in a program that uniquely emphasized the integration of religion and spirituality into research, education, supervision, and clinical work; I thoroughly enjoy the opportunity to practically apply the principles of this integration in therapy as indicated by the client.

Faith/Spirituality can be a source of hope, strength, and support. Additionally, there can be periods of struggle, doubt, and confusion in the life of a spiritual/religious client. When it comes to therapy, I take a collaborative approach and work alongside clients in identifying concerns and working together to alleviate suffering. I believe the relationship between counselor and the couple is of utmost importance and work to provide a warm, nonjudgmental atmosphere whereby you can explore painful, scary, and difficult aspects of yourself in the presence of an unconditionally accepting other. Furthermore, I believe therapy is a place where you can also discover strengths, resilience, and powerful insight that propels you forward toward healing and growth. Throughout the process, I will yield to you and integrate your faith/spirituality to the extent which you are comfortable, allowing room for a courageous evaluation of all aspects of your beliefs with the ultimate hope that you will arrive at a deeper, more fulfilling sense of strength and hope in your faith/spirituality. I cherish the opportunity to bear witness to all these aspects of the therapeutic process and to celebrate the emersion of your whole, authentic, self.

In addition to a warm therapeutic environment, I also highly value the inclusion of empirically supported treatments in therapy. As such, I've completed Level 1 and 2 training in Gottman Method Couples Therapy to provide services to couples using this empirically supported treatment approach. Additionally, I have completed training and earned certification as a Perinatal Mental Health Professional (PMH-C) to more effectively provide therapy to perinatal/postpartum women and their families. Lastly, I am a certified traumatologist through the Green Cross Academy of Traumatology. As needed, I'm deployed through the Green Cross to both domestic and international disaster sites (such as when Hurricane Sandy struck in N.J. in 2012, when Typhoon Yolanda hit the Philippines in 2013, and most recently to Charlottesville, VA in August 2017), to provide clinical and supervision services to those affected by these horrendous events. As appropriate, I integrate Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) and Cognitive Processing Therapy (CPT) to assist in developing skills to regulate emotions and process traumatic events.

Overall, I greatly look forward to the opportunity to work with you. I am constantly in awe of the clients I have the privilege of journeying alongside; they remain some of the most creative, courageous, resilient, inspiring, and beautiful humans I have met.


  • Stress, Anxiety
  • Trauma and abuse
  • Self esteem
  • Depression
  • Compassion fatigue
Also experienced in:
LGBT , Relationship issues , Family conflicts , Parenting issues , Career difficulties , Bipolar disorder , Coping with life changes , ADHD , Abandonment , Attachment Issues , Commitment Issues , Control Issues , Read more...

Clinical approaches:
Client-Centered Therapy, Gottman Method, Psychodynamic Therapy, Solution-Focused Therapy, Trauma-Focused Therapy

Years of Experience: 10

Services Offered

  • Messaging

  • Live Chat

  • Video


LPC #0701006828 (Expires: 2021-06-30)

LCPC #LC5868 (Expires: 2022-01-31)


Written by B.R. on Feb 13, 2021 after counseling with Nicole for 2 weeks

Dr. DiLella has been a wonderful support during an anxious time.